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It is a self-esteem destroying machine that consumes time and excretes frustration.

broke the picket line to $2.99 same day order a carton of Izze Sparkling Juice to my house

The secret is I was going to do some of that anyway by virtue of being alive and myself but they don't have to know that

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If making up a guy and getting mad at him is too much work, give me a call and I'll do something morally and ethically ambivalent but socially distasteful for you to dunk on. For you, no charge

Skip-level promotion is fine for me - I can believe I might be the right person for the job duties - but fixed titles are strange. It is odd to me than on Monday I'll be a Senior Program Manager without having ever been a junior one

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House ruling: If a Cleric uses an alchemy jug to create mayonnaise, it is actually miracle whip

On the concept of "virtue signaling" 

The virtue signal is real. If you're here you probably do it and you should probably own it. It's unhelpful to think of those signs as Universally Good because even leftists don't agree on them.

But you should also recognize - I would say, you should also condemn, if you have a safe platform - when someone uses the signals of your ingroup to justify, conceal, or obfuscate doing harm. If they do so in your name, that's *your* reputation they're going to damage

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On the concept of "virtue signaling" 

In and of itself it's not a bad thing to show your colors. But it becomes insidious when it's hypocritical, or when it's used to justify harmful behavior and reinforce structural oppression. Like the "green beard" in green beard altruism, it is worse than pointless - in fact dangerous - if it doesn't come with the behavior it's meant to represent. 4/

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On the concept of "virtue signaling" 

Other signs may not be as explicit - I feel like I have some sense of what a person values when they say folx rather than folks - but they serve similar purpose. It's a shibboleth. A low risk, low effort behavior modification to say to that particular crowd, "I am safe. I am good. I am on your side." 3/

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On the concept of "virtue signaling" 

If an Evangelical Christian puts a fish decal on their car or business, that's definitely a way to signal their values to other people who would assess them and find them virtuous. It is an ingroup signifier. It lets people for whom it has positive meaning select for interaction with that person, and tells people who would not to stay away. That is its primary feature - a literal signal of virtue. 2/

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On the concept of "virtue signaling" 

I've seen the "virtue signaling isn't real" or "virtue signaling is admitting someone else is good and you don't like it" kinds of takes basically since the first wave of mastodon.social users

and while I also bristle to see the term used to criticize aesthetic choices rather than substance, I've come to conclude that fundamentally disagree with the idea that it's a non-concept, an ad-hominem, or somehow exists only as a right wing countersign. Hear me out 1/

It's hard to talk about "using very current social justice language to justify institutional oppression" without some shorthand for the concept.

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Went to look over the fence at the far-right side of the Fediverse since I hadn't in some years and it's only getting more insular and more hateful. Though I guess they've decided they're anti-porn since last I looked? Interesting swing

Got my offer letter today at long last. Decent raise but that's not why I took the position. I want to be where I can help the most -- and that's where I can stave off crunch, keep estimation honest, and help people work together instead of pushing each other around

Sure! We all want the answer! But Hashem doesn't owe us the answer, Larry. Hashem doesn't owe us anything. The obligation runs the other way.

online tabletop games, dependent personality, and criticism 

Listening to another Internet game master talk about apologizing to people who are unnecessarily aggressive, and I do wonder if my heuristic for who deserves an apology and who should be told to kick rocks needs further refinement

it feels weird to say "I should apologize less" but I really do spend a lot of time trying to please strangers who don't want to be happy with me

At a previous company, I used the word "dogfooding" talking to an executive about utilizing the bleeding edge of our product in our own facilities.

"We don't say dogfooding, we say drinking our own champagne" he condescended, weeks before slashing our "champagne" budget and laying off 80% of the office

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